I hear you, and I’m sure a number of readers do, too. Which gives you two choices: leave him because you feel like you can’t spend your life with a rich man who is cheap, or stick around and appreciate that you have a super life, filled with love, companionship, fun, and tons of material possessions – but your husband is simply a skinflint. I also think you may be equating his lack of generosity with a lack of love. I think two things: he’s genuinely cheap, and he genuinely loves you.The real sticking point is that his take on “his money vs. He can provide for you in 100 different ways, but because he’s hesitant to give you 0 to go to the store, he doesn’t truly love you. If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t be marrying you.
So while I’m not going to defend your fiancées behavior – cheap is not cool – I’d have to ask you one really tough question: Would you be marrying him if HE made ,000?Their theory is: “If I buy you a Jaguar, maybe you won’t notice how emotionally distant and abusive I am!” These type of wealthy men make the worst husbands because they think that they can buy your affection and don’t have to actually, y’know, listen to you.Likewise, don't be the jerk that goes out to eat with friends and doesn't order anything but then picks off other people's plates.That's a good way to get your hand stabbed with a fork if you're dining with me.There's a thin line between being frugal and being cheap, but how do we know when we're in danger of crossing it?