What may have once seemed a great way to meet people--parties or singles bars, for example--may no longer feel right for you.
Reconciliation after divorce might seem unthinkable to many who've survived an ugly divorce. You were married in the first place for a reason, after all, and sometimes divorced couples realize that they acted in haste by separating and divorcing.
This time delay becomes even more important if you have children.
They too will have feelings of grief and loss, sadness and anger.
Even if your ex-spouse was a cheat, liar, alcoholic or an abuser it is good to focus on what you learned about yourself through the relationship.
You are not to blame for any of those things; they are not your fault.
Are you returning out of fear of loneliness or abandonment or our of pressure from your ex or others?Their adjustment, ability to deal with the concept of you dating, and acceptance of a new adult in your lives will be aided by putting things on hold for a while.When coming out of a divorce many newly single people are in a different phase of life from when they were last dating.If one emerges from divorce with nothing but blame and bitterness for the other person, your work is not done.And you'll be vulnerable to a repeat next time around.It is a waste of time to beat yourself up or carry around guilt.