If all that hard work sounds overwhelming, don't give up.
Maybe you're thinking that winning a woman's heart will require you to act like someone you're not. And here's why: She's not a man — she's not , so meeting her unique needs won't come naturally.
Applying their advice will often be counterintuitive and involve making rookie mistakes as you learn the dying art of romancing a woman.
And my approach was a lot better than some of my friends, who were spending all kinds of time with women without ever making their intentions clear.
As it turns out, even though my wife was, in fact, taken aback by my bluntness, she also liked it very much.
Get yourself into counseling, and while you're at it, do whatever it takes to be friends with an older, stable, married guy.
Be completely transparent with these mentors and with God, and ask for help in moving toward stability. Because part of what makes you so weird with women is the fact that you've got baggage that you're always subconsciously trying to hide.